Deluded and Deranged

Rebound: pull through, recuperate, convalesce, ricochet, spring back…

Why oh why do people go for rebounds? I think it’s when a heart so desires to be with someone, the feeling of rejection from their previous heart’s desire is so immense; they need to be with someone to pull through, to fill that void.

We all know this is a mistake. Instead of taking time to work through the pain and growing as an individual, they are supplementing it. They have essentially lost all the intricate, magic complexions that make them an interesting individual. They are deluded and deranged.

Additionally, so are the people who desperately want to be in a relationship – now I’m talking about the people who are serial relationshippers (SR). I’m not sure if that’s the correct term for it, but I mean people who jump from one relationship to another, more often than not, each relationship cross over each other. They make sure they have a back up before breaking up because they cannot handle being on their own.

So desperate to be with someone, they are unsure what they are looking for, for they have always been in a relationship, so haven’t taken the time to develop themselves. Resulting in creating an incredibly co-dependant creature. They also tend to project their ideals on each person they are with; magnifying it, so initially they are floating in an ideal bubble, the person is perfect, nothing they don’t like about them and tell the other person all the things they want to hear.

All the ideals they are made to believe when growing up are projected onto the new encounter, be it material or conjured up in their minds. As the fog settles, the SR slowly realizes that this is not what they are looking for. Their eyes and bodies wander and before you know it, they are in another relationship.

Now I’m no expert by any standards, but perhaps both parties need to take time out and look within themselves. Re-create themselves, some me time. In this way, not only do they rediscover who they are as an individual, but also it gives them the time to think about what they want. Others who are mere objects/ subjects in the set up are saved from being used as a pawn in the ego trip of both the SR and rebounder.